I am one of those lucky people who was born into a dysfunctional family and grew up trying to thrive despite all the traumas and extra limitations that come with this background.

During the first part of my adult life, from 18 to 28, I repressed all those bad memories and moved forward with my plans: college, living abroad, work, marriage, and so on.

However, in 2015, just before turning 28, I fell into a deep depression “for no reason”, and this completely disrupted my life.

Since then, I have been on a beautiful, yet challenging, 9-year journey of healing, self-discovery, and personal growth that has inspired me to create this blog.

These are the 10 valuable lessons I’ve learned in my healing process:

1. Emotional traumas are as real and destructive as cancer. If left untreated, they will consume you over time.

2. Most diseases, if not all of them, are related to severe emotional suffering, especially chronic conditions.

3. Any type of addiction is a coping mechanism for extreme emotional pain or emptiness that the person couldn’t otherwise alleviate.

4. As adults, we have an inner child in our psyche who needs love, care, protection, and healing throughout our lives.

5. Our personality is not our real identity. It is a malleable social mask that can mature and evolve through inner work, therapy, and self-analysis.

6. Self-care, self-regulation, meditation, therapy, support network, and protection against retraumatization are our best allies in the healing process.

7. Both self-victimization and self-abandonment are detrimental to the healing process. They hinder our ability to put ourselves together and thrive.

8. People deeply traumatized in childhood can’t properly heal unless they learn how to reparent themselves.

9. Healing emotional trauma requires a comprehensive approach that may involve psychological and psychiatric treatment, psychoeducation, physical exercises, a good diet, and a balanced lifestyle.

10. The healing process is a lifetime journey full of ups and downs that happens in a non-linear and unique way for each of us. Therefore, following our instincts before making major decisions is vital for its success.

I truly hope that these insights will help you in your journey as well. Had I learned them 9 years ago, everything would have been easier for me.

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