How comforting it is for our egos

to have their needs

met

by others.

We feel so loved and validated

every time someone prioritizes us

over their own interests…

When this happens,

we reconnect with the undeniable power of babies,

whose safety and well-being are naturally the priorities of their caregivers.

The memory of this unconditional love we once received never fades away;

it is imprinted in every cell of our bodies.

For this reason,

we never fully stop wishing to be cared for in this way

throughout our lives.

How could it be otherwise?

Who could give up on something

so intrinsically

nourishing

and

uplifting?

But, inevitably, things change;

And we witness such relevance dying out as we grow older.

It’s over!

Our days of majesty are gone now,

and all that remains within us

is a

lingering

hungriness.

We’ve become hungriness,

secretly hoping

to find someone or something

powerful enough

to fill

this

void.

We may try one person after another,

one dream after another,

but that emptiness remains,

expanding inside

—this lingering

hungriness.

Then, one day, some of us decide

to turn things

around.

We stop seeking

external compensation for this emptiness

and begin

to explore its depths.

We are ready now!

We are prepared for the journey

of self-love

and the discovery of our

inner

treasures.

Here are some excellent books to empower us along the way:

Being You, Changing The World
Author(s): Dr. Dain Heer
Main topic: Practical tools for self-acceptance and growth.

How to Be an Adult in Relationships: The Five Keys to Mindful Loving
Author(s): David Richo
Main topic: A practical guide to foster mindful relationships based on “the five A’s”: attention, acceptance, appreciation, affection, and allowing.

Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find –And Keep–Love
Author(s): Amir Levine, Rachel Heller, and Rachel S. F. Heller
Main topics: The three attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, and secure, and how to identify them.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map For Recovering From Childhood Trauma
Author(s): Pete Walker
Main topics: How to heal from abandonment depression/CPTSD and manage emotional flashbacks.

Money Isn’t The Problem, You Are
Author(s): Dr. Dain Heer and Gary M. Douglas
Main topic: The relationship between an unwillingness to receive and money issues.

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love
Author(s): John Gottmann and Julie Schwartz Gottmann
Main topics: Guidance on key aspects of romantic relationships: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

I love these books not only for their practical usefulness but also because they taught me something I will carry with me forever:

We don’t need to remain

a hostage

to

our

traumas

and

limitations.

We can heal and grow

with the help

of those

who dedicate

their

lives

to finding

solutions

for

human suffering.

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