We are such unique

and complex

individuals

that achieving unanimity

is merely

a

utopia;

no universal formula

can effectively apply

to all of us.

Therefore, the interplay among our personalities, values, and backgrounds is crucial in determining what will be best for nearly every aspect of our lives.

Psychotherapy is no exception.

While I highly recommend this treatment to anyone facing deep suffering, I also recognize that, depending on the circumstances, it can sometimes be a waste of time and money.

There are several reasons why therapy may not help:

1. **Client-Therapist Mismatch**

If the chosen therapist lacks sufficient experience or employs an approach that doesn’t meet our specific needs, we may end up disliking the experience.

• For instance, a woman struggling with the challenges of motherhood might not feel genuinely supported by a therapist who hasn’t went trhough similar experiences.

2. **Triggering Conversations**

Not everyone benefits from discussing their sufferings, especially in extreme situations where they are profoundly traumatized.

💡 In such cases, it may be more helpful to use subtle techniques that bypass these triggers.

3. **Endless Rumination**

We won’t solve our problems if we spend sessions merely venting and blaming others.

A good therapist will often encourage proactive behavior when they notice we are going in circles, but the client may not always be ready to move forward.

💡 Therapy is most effective when viewed as a process of emotional growth rather than a way to prove a point.

4. **Avoidance of Reality**

If we refuse to confront our issues beyond the old narratives we’ve been telling ourselves, we won’t find effective solutions.

💡 It’s essential to view life from a more realistic and responsible perspective to overcome our problems and limitations.

5. **Resistance to Growth**

When we are unwilling to let go of the past and our old selves, therapy sessions can become a cycle of complaints and trivialities.

💡 If someone’s aim is merely to stay where they are, they might as well do that for free with friends and family.

Therapy has rescued me from my darkest moments, and I am incredibly grateful to my therapists for their attentive listening and emotional support.

For me, this is the best way to heal and grow in a safe environment, rather than through complicated relationships and projections.

Sartre once said, “Hell is other people”.

Well, this quote only truly resonates with those who do not know life well enough to understand that everything is a mirror.

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