When we are heartbroken and lack the right tools to overcome it, all areas of our lives suffer from the impact of such a crisis.

We feel the pain, it hurts a lot, and the next thing we can think of is a way to escape it as quickly as possible.

Here, any distraction will do:

• TV

• Junk food

• Social media

• Shopping

• Video games

• Hookups
• Porn

The list goes on and on…

Regardless of the distraction we choose to numb our feelings, it either hinders us from making money or drives us to spend what we already have.

EMOTIONAL DYSREGULATION AND POOR DECISION-MAKING

The more distressed we become, the less capable we are of making mindful decisions, because strong emotions can easily outpower our rationality.

As studies have shown, we make decisions based on our emotions and then find rationalizations to justify them.

WHEN MONEY CAN’T JUST BE MONEY

For a person who is emotionally healthy, money serves as what it is—an exchange currency that ensures survival and access to meaningful experiences

On the other hand, for someone struggling with emotional traumas and/or loneliness, money often becomes a means to buy excitement, validation, and companionship.

“He dumped me after a few dates.

I need that fancy dress to feel beautiful and appreciated again.”

“All women I’m attracted to keep rejecting me.

All I need is a Tesla to prove my power and regain control.”

The correlation between neediness and overspending is so powerful that it is exploited in advertisements worldwide.

The message is clear:

“Buy our car and you’ll attract beautiful women.”

“Use our brand and you’ll become his dream woman.”

“Keep looking outside and buying from us.

“THE MORE MISERABLE YOU BECOME, THE BETTER FOR US.”

*A great deal of our economy is based on this fantasy.

No, it will never work for real because:

A multi-layered problem can’t be solved by a one-dimension decision.

We need to dig inside, heal, and grow, daring to ask difficult questions and bear the answers despite how hurtful they may be.

“He dumped me after a few dates.”

“WHY?”

“Did I choose him wisely or did I rush into it without testing the waters first?”

“Why did I open up so quickly to a stranger?”

“WHY?”

“All women reject me.”

“WHY?”

“Did I choose them wisely or did I try to date out of my league to prove myself?”

“Why am I trying to seek validation through women?”

“WHY?”

At the end of the day, the actions of others are not as significant as we often believe.

They are just mirrors reflecting our own light and shadow back to us.

When we stop fighting with the mirror,

we can finally

face our reflection on it.

Then, the true journey begins!

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